You've trained yourself to face reality. You've trained yourself to tell the truth. You've trained yourself to tell it like it is. So in the beginning, these fantasies feel a little inappropriate, because it's like you're fooling yourself. Sometimes people will say, "Well, isn't this just denial?" And we say, we hope so! We hope that you are denying the absence that you do not want. And we hope that you are embracing the presence of what you do. But somehow the idea of denial has become a dirty word to you; like it is virtuous to face the reality of the horror of your own lives. And we would be ignoring anything that did not please us. We would get our eyes on what feels good.
Abraham-Hicks San Rafael, CA -- 3/9/01

"Is it reality, or is it not reality? All things are reality. Even if
only one is imagining it, it is a reality in that the thought has
been offered and someone, who has the ability to translate that
vibration, will perceive it. It must be fair to say that anything
that can be perceived must be reality. Because, as creators, your
reality depends upon what you are willing to imagine and allow.
Abraham-Hicks Los Angeles, CA -- 8/19/00

Never face reality unless your reality is just the way you want it to be.
Abraham-Hicks G-5/17/97, San Antonio,TX

Do you have to change your vibration on a particular subject in
order to let it in?" No, you don't. You could pet your pet and let it
in. You could sit with your feet dangling in the bay, and let it in.
If it is a subject that you often think of in an attitude of
resistance, it is really worthwhile reaching for some thoughts that
feel better. You could launch an intention and never think about it
again, and the Universe would yield it to you. You don't have to
clean up your vibration relative to anything, if you can just not
think about it any more. That's why we teach meditation. It's easier
to teach you to have no thought than to have pure positive thought.
When you quiet your mind you stop thought; when you stop thought you
stop resistance; when you stop resistance--then you are in a state of
allowing.
Abraham-Hicks Los Angeles, CA -- 8/19/00.

Resistance is about believing that you are vulnerable or susceptible to something not wanted and holding a stance of protection, which only holds you in a place of not letting in the Well-being that would be there otherwise. There is nothing big enough to protect you from unwanted things -- and there are no unwanted things big enough to get into your experience.
Atlanta, GA -- G-11/4/00
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You say, "Oh, but it wasn't my fault because I didn't offer the vibration until they did that action, and after they did that action then I offered the vibration." And we say, still, you are the only one that can change your vibration. And you say, "Oh, but if they'd behave differently, then I'd change my vibration." We say, Oh, here we go again. How many decades of life experience within this body do you think it's going to take before you finally convince yourself that you can't get them to choose? They're not going to hold you as their object of attention long enough. Pleasing you is not their job. You pleasing you is your job.

You've got to find something redeeming in them so that you can be pleased. And when you find it, activate that in your vibration, and then they will show it to you.
Abraham-Hicks Phoenix, AZ -- 3/23/02B

 
 
Abe
we've noticed that when you are not letting it in,
it's usually because you're facing some fact or telling
some truth, facing some reality - you've joined others
in your noticing of something that is, you're locked in
to a vibrational pattern with this thing you do not
want, and then you assume something's screwy with the
universe, or God isn't hearing you, or you've lived
some karmic life before that has put you in this place
of curse, or you inherited something awful.

And we say, none of this is true. The only thing that
is ever happening when you are not living exactly what
you want, which is a changing thing all the time, is
that you're out of vibrational step with what you do
want.

And it is always the same thing: you are vibrationally
tied to what is, instead of finding vibrational harmony
with what you desire.

So how do I, in my physical form, go about finding
vibrational harmony with what I want, when I'm right
smack dab in the middle of what I don't want?

We say: get your attention away from where you are.

And you say: but he lives with me...! [group laughter]

Abraham-Hicks Cincinnati, OH - 9/21/02

Let us offer you the perfect coming together vows, whether you are calling them marriage or whether you are calling them something else.

'The Universe can please all of you at the same time. "Well, how can that be? If I want to live in the mountains and she wants to live at the ocean, how could the Universe possibly please us both?" And we say, as each of you gets to the essence of why you want what you want, and are not pointing at the other and saying, "No, no, not that, please not that," the Universe can fulfill both.'

Abe

Have you ever known someone, you meet them, they are outside of the environment
in which they have grown up, they are away at school, not in the town where
they were raised, not near their mother, or their father, or anyone that has
known them, and as you meet this being, it is a perfect specimen of
humanity. As far as you are concerned, it is a wondrous being. And as you
look at this Wondrous being with that attitude, the being becomes more
wondrous every day. You just can't believe that you have met such a
marvelous person. And then that person takes you home, and the mother of
that person begins to tell you of all of the things that person did while
they were growing up, pointing out all of the weaknesses, all of the things
that have been overcome, or need to be overcome, and suddenly you are
looking at that person in a new light. And suddenly you say, "Yes, I see
that, I can see how you aren't as strong as I thought you were, and not as
smart as I thought you were." And as you look at that being with that new
set of intentions, you begin to solicit from them that which you do not
like, and then you say, "I don't really want to be with you. I am looking
for a perfect one." It is the reason that most relationships deteriorate.

When you are drawn together, you are drawn together by that which you are
wanting, you see, but then as you are together, your focus is no longer on
what is wanted... but upon what is not wanted.

Here is the principle, for it will apply regarding all things. You see in
this being all the things that you are wanting until you are influenced by
another to see the flaws. As you are influenced by another, or even by your
own habit -- you may always look for flaws -- as you are influenced by,
whatever, others or your own habits, to look for the flaws, then you begin
to solicit, to summon, to literally draw from that being, the things that
you don't like. Where before, before the influence, you were drawing the
things that you did like. Do you understand what we are saying? The
"imperfect" or the "perfect" person has nothing to do with it.

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QUESTION: OK. Now this person here, you're seeing all of these
imperfections, and you are literally drawing them out of him?
ABRAHAM: Indeed. He is becoming your creation.
QUESTION: OK. The more you draw, the more you dislike.
Now you are going to treat him this way. Now, is it his fault you're
treating him that way?
ABRAHAM: You are seeing that which you are intending.
He is as he always has been. He is as everything and everyone is, a
combination of all of these things, you see. But you are drawing from him --
just as you draw from life -- that which you focus upon.
And if you focus upon that which you are wanting to see, that is what you
will draw into your experience -- whether you are talking about the entire
universe, or one single soul. Abraham-Hicks publications 'New Beginning 1

Abraham: Someone said to us, with some concern, "Abraham," as you said, "I come from a rather religious background, and yet when I come here, I do not hear you speak of God." And we said, in truth, we speak of nothing else. It is that man has interpreted God in many different ways for many different reasons. If we were to give you a description of what we think you think God is, we would say it is the Non-physical consciousness from which you spring forth. It is a consciousness that knows all that you are, and is, in fact, all that you are, as you are all that it is. As you stand here on this leading edge of thought, you are extensions of this Non-physical Energy.
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If we were standing in your physical shoes, we would bless and appreciate every religion, no matter how diverse, or how specialized, or how weird it seems to you. We would say, "There is something in everything for everyone. And isn't it wonderful that I've come forth in this magnificent environment of such diversity, where we, as a people, can continue to take thought beyond that which it has been before?"
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We think this will help you: Imagine that you are swimming and you find yourself tired and in trouble. Well, if you would just relax, you could float to the surface and regain a little stamina and then off you could go again. But if you start flailing about in your fear that you're going to drown... The worse it gets the worse it gets the worse it gets... And what we would like you to do is just do more relaxing.
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